“Yes, my consuming desire is to mingle with road crews, sailors and soldiers, barroom regulars—to be a part of a scene, anonymous, listening, recording—all this is spoiled by the fact that I am a girl, a female always supposedly in danger of assault and battery. My consuming interest in men and their lives is often misconstrued as a desire to seduce them, or as an invitation to intimacy. Yes, God, I want to talk to everybody as deeply as I can. I want to be able to sleep in an open field, to travel west, to walk freely at night…” ― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath

There is something about walking in the city that is both relaxing in the anonymity it gives you and nerve wracking when doing so as a woman. So many things that men seem to take for granted have a hidden layer of danger when you’re a woman. Men work alone, live alone, travel alone and run errands alone with little fear of attack while women are often blamed if they are attacked while doing the exact same actions as a man.

If a woman is mugged while walking home from the store or work then anything from her dress, attitude, or lifestyle could be blamed for the attack. Have the same attack happen to a man and he is an unlucky victim. Why is the woman blamed for violence she didn’t invite while a man is simply the victim of violence done to him?

A woman in New York spent ten hours walking around town. She recorded men cat calling her and received 108 comments or propositions during her walk. Now she’s receiving death and rape threats.


Even in games women are often attacked and harassed simply for being female and trying to enjoy playing. Women journalists are speaking out about the culture of violent threats against women gamers and receiving death threats.


Virginia Woolf described the anonymity of being a person in the city perfectly in the essay, Street Haunting: A London Adventure. Check it out in the link below.


Daily Word Count


Have I mentioned that I’m not writing at all? Don’t believe me? In 13 days I’ve written barely 500 words. I hope NaNoWriMo will get me back into the groove and my head cooperates.

I keep stuttering to a stop around 8 pm at my house. Glancing around and finally just going to bed. At 8! If my head cooperates I’m planning to take that extra two hours and write each afternoon.

I haven’t wanted to even look at my computer when I get home the last few weeks.

Getting things done!

14 - 1 (1)Well, today has turned into a day of checking things off the list.

✔: Cleaned the gutters. Thanks Dad.
✔: Trimmed the bushes and ripped up ivy.
✔: Checked the transmission fluid in my car.
✔: Rearranged furniture in my office and cleaned up. Need to organize my craft table for the new projects.
✔: Doing laundry now.
✔: Moved my table in the dining area and put the bakers rack outside. Stella’s spent the morning on the porch barking at the little league-ers.
✔: Yesterday, my Dad and I figured out how to break wine bottles cleanly and how to grind them down. Looks like this week is going to be using power tools, lol.

The things you do when you’re not writing.

You find a lot of things to fiddle with when you’re not writing.

  1. Edit all words in progress to add Title pages and Tables of Contents.
  2. Clean your desk.
  3. Clean the entire house.
  4. Move furniture.
  5. Watch too much TV.
  6. Read actual books, that are not about writing.
  7. Dig out old games to play while hoping for inspiration.
  8. Outlines!
  9. Pinterest your characters!
  10. Try and write.

Anaïs Nin

“You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too. There is too rigid a pattern. You came out of an education and are supposed to know your vocation. Your vocation is fixed, and maybe ten years later you find you are not a teacher anymore or you’re not a painter anymore. It may happen. I mean Gauguin decided at a certain point he wasn’t a banker anymore; he was a painter. And so he walked away from banking. We have a right to change course. But society keeps demanding we fit in and not disturb things.” -Anaïs Nin

Taking care of yourself.

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about self care this week. Below are just a few that stuck with me. The comments on Captain Awkward are amazing.

I’ve been having some body/health issues lately and it’s been driving me nuts how quickly my life/work balance falls apart when you’re not at 100%. In order to get myself back level I’ve been letting myself go to bed early if I want, taking my vitamins, curling on the couch with the pup to watch too much anime, and reading books in bed.

Yes, I have things that need to get done, but the things will be there tomorrow. What are you doing to take care of yourself?

To Do List

  1. Life
    1. It’s October so I’ve slowly started doing my Christmas shopping.
    2. Need to clean the carpet in my house.
    3. Bug bombing this Saturday.
    4. Need to pick up rat traps for the garage since I don’t want to put down poison with the feral cats around.
    5. I want to move furniture again and pick up a few things to pretty up the house for the fall, like a fluffy blanket for the couch and new pillows.
    6. Waiting on test results, but I at least went to the doctor and am being checked out.
  2. Writing
    1. I’m prepping for Nanowrimo and have a bunch of outlines to write up tonight. Tonight is World Building with my Nano group online so hopefully I will get some solid work done.
    2. I need to integrate my notes and new scenes into the novel. I realized that the world viewpoint of my character will be changed after the new scenes and I have some editing and reworking to do on the end of the book.
    3. I’m trying to wrap up several fan fictions before Nano but not making much progress.