Just got told “People gravitate toward those they think will have a positive influence on them.”

Makes me flinch to think about all the bad relationships I have been in and the awful friendships. If this is true then what was I looking for in them?

I know we all go into relationships with preconcieved notions. But I tend to find the extreme friendships. None of mine have lasted except for one. Most go out once I change locations, jobs, or schools. I simply never hear from them again. The rest go down in flames.